The ADHD brain, like a stick shift car, doesn't work automatically in some ways. It is a neurobiological deficit in self-regulation. Not your fault! It causes such behaviors as impulsivity, emotional outbursts, and difficulty following through on intentions. Learning more about it helps you manage it, and takes away shame that may have become attached I am a psychotherapist who understands what it is and how you may think about it. It's a life changing experience to get a diagnosis and then to process how it has affected you. I use integrative treatment that recognizes feelings you have about your abilities, helps you choose practical methods to stay on top of it, and helps you laugh about what you can't!