Ask the Expert: Finding More Happiness for Both Partners When One Person has ADHD Ask The Expert
February 10, 2021 7:00 PM, EST
Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA
Couples where one partner has ADHD typically have the same struggles as other couples, but perhaps more frequently and more intensely. They often fall into a chase dynamic with the non-ADHD partner feeling the burden of over-functioning and the ADHD partner feeling too often like they cannot get it right. It is crucial to break this disheartening tug of war by helping both partners to negotiate disagreements more effectively. We will discuss how to help couples navigate this process of balancing the need for some aspects of the relationship to change while also accepting the differences that remain. We will also discuss why a satisfying sex life is not only a reward for good behavior but also an important driver of good behavior that we should not ignore.
- Describe ways that ADHD can impact both romantic partners and the common dynamics that ensue.
- Explain why a good relationship pushes you to become a better person.
- Break the unproductive tug-of-war that is created when one partner wants more.
- Create more sustainable solutions to differences and disagreements.
Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST has given more than 400 presentations and routinely earns excellent reviews for his ability to make complicated information understandable and useful. He is the author of four books: “ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship”, “Understand Your Brain, Get More Done”, “More Attention, Less Deficit” and “Integrative Treatment for Adult ADHD”. His “More Attention, Less Deficit” podcast has more than 100 episodes and almost three million downloads. He is a psychologist and sex therapist in private practice in West Chester, PA, a former board member of CHADD National, and co-chair of the CHADD conference committee.