What’s the best gift you can give your partner if you have ADHD? The gift of attention! I’m going to give you some ideas below, but please let me briefly say why it’s such a great gift first. Since the number one symptom of adult ADHD is distractibility, it’s quite likely your partner doesn’t get as much positive, affectionate, or helpful attention as s/he would like. In fact, sometimes they get virtually no attention.